Now I really know why Peter Pan never wanted to grow up. It sucks. A lot. My AP Lit teacher in high school used to say: “life sucks, and then you die” (this being the moral of stories such as Frankenstein and Wuthering Heights — but actually applies to every piece of literature ever written) is probably the most valuable lesson I learned throughout all 16 years of my time as a student.
Now that I’m 6 months out of school, and I’ve gotten my first student loan payment bill, adulthood is hitting me way too hard and lately I’ve just been crying about it. As you can see in these subsequent tweets:
I know I’ve got sick days and vacation days but what about heartbreak days?? Sometimes you just need a good lil day to feel sad
— Alex Jones (@alex_joness) June 6, 2016
— Alex Jones (@alex_joness) June 3, 2016
I think that I’m fulling the full effects of adulthood because:
- I have hella bills to pay
- The majority of my friends have graduated
- Friends start moving away
- I’ve been experiencing a lot of changes
I think that when my friends started moving away and all that was left was my mundane job, I started to realize that they were the reason that I liked living here so much. Needless to say, I was in a bit of a rut, and breaking out of the mundane and finding purpose in my life (outside of my job) was exactly what the doctor ordered.
Doing Something Worthwhile
As I’ve said before in a post I wrote about a year ago, volunteering my time to a worthwhile cause brings completeness to my life. It may sound cheesy or that I’m trying to create a holier-than-thou idea of myself, but, it really does help to bring that much needed purpose to life that you may lose when in a rut. So, I started looking into volunteer opportunities in my area. There’s a lot of opportunities are out there, it’s just a matter of knowing where to look. Volunteermatch.org is great place to start looking for ways to get involved.
Having Something to Look Forward to
Planning on something, be it a vacation or your favorite band’s concert can be a great help in rut-breaking. Just having to look forward to and say “I just have to make it x amount of days until this happens” can be a great day to get through a difficult day at work. It also helps to keep a stash of wine and chocolate at home to break out in these times of need.
Try Something New
This should be a no-brainer. But going to a new restuarant, or trying a bar that you usually don’t go to can really help you bust out of a rut. Sometimes we can get caught in a routine and find ourselves doing the same things with the same people, over and over again. One thing that I like to do is to have a “YES” night. This is, as can be implied by the name, a night where you just say “yes” to everything (within reason). A yes can be vetoed by your friend group, etc. if they fear your overacheiving “yes night” may be regrettable.
Take Back Control
Ultimately, I think the most trying part of these past couple of months has been the fact that I am unable to control all the changes going on around me — a HUGE problem for a control freak like me. That’s why I decided to dye my hair lighter. It’s not too drastic of a change (mostly because bleach frightens me) but it’s a change in my life that I was able to decide upon and control. This was major key in bringing sanity back to my life.
How Jonesy Got Her Groove Back
If you haven’t noticed, this is the first post I’ve written in over a month. Clearly, being in this rut was taking a toll on my life in more ways than one. The most important thing to remember, though, is that all wounds in time. Just ask my scarred knees (thanks, uneven Charleston cobblestones).