So you’re past the dating and the bad breakups, and you’re tired of all the wrong guys you’re meeting. You’re starting to wonder if you were actually destined to end up with one of the Mr. Wrongs in your life because you’re reaching that point where you’re exhausted from not finding the right one. Well, stop wondering because he didn’t work out for a reason. Don’t look at the number of Mr. Wrongs you’ve dated in the past, but rather look at what you’ve learned from them. The Mr. Wrongs made you realize what you want in a relationship with Mr. Right. I’ve dated my fair share of Wrongs in the past and I’m thankful for each and every one of them, because I’ve learned a lot about myself and what I want.
Here are a few lessons I’ve learned from my relationships with Mr. Wrongs:
- You have to love yourself before others can love you. Ask yourself, if I don’t love myself, how can anyone? You’ve seen your flaws, you know them on the back of your hand, and although you’re not a fan of them, you’ve accepted them. As quoted by the lovely woman, Marilyn Monroe.
“If you can’t handle me at my worst, then you don’t deserve me at my best.”
- Don’t be afraid to set high standards. You deserve to have high standards. You don’t need to lower them, that’s just settling for the next best thing. You deserve the best thing. You know what you want in a partner, so why not get it?
- It’s okay to be selfish but you must balance it with being self-less. It’s a give and take relationship.
- You are Miss Independent not Miss Dependent. Even Ne-Yo can vouch for that:
She got her own thing
That’s why I love her
Oh, the way she shine
- Respect their privacy, and they’ll respect yours. Do not demand to read his texts, we’re not in high school anymore. Or ask who he’s hanging out with and where and when. You’re not his mother. Respect and trust goes hand in hand. You respect his choice and trust him with it.
- Solo time is good. I’ve learned that spending all day, every day with your companion is tiresome. You’re constantly trying to impress each other, and you’re constantly wanting to keep the fire alive, but there’s a time when you just need to spend time with yourself.
When you know what you want in a relationship, it’s easier to seek out Mr. Right based on what he wants in a relationship as well. What have you learned from your past relationships?
Guest Post from: Joanne Nguyen